Are you Shy?

Are you shy? You are not by yourself! Many people have this trait and I know myself because though most people that know me would not say that I am shy? But I am and I have learned to deal with it myself.


There are many articles and books out there to help you overcome being shy. But today lets just touch on a few things that could help you get over your own issues. Remember first that it will take practice and a concerted effort on your part.

First thing in the morning when you get up raise yourself to the full height get in front of a mirror and say out loud “I feel great”. When you are done getting ready for work get back in front of the mirror and repeat the morning affirmation “I feel great.” As you go through the day repeat the same. By repeating this over and over it will become ingrained in your subconscious. Don't walk around saying this out loud, lest your co-workers think you have lost it.

Second thing you need to do is to look good. This works how do you fell when you get new clothes or a hair cut. I know when I walk out of the barbershop I not only feel better but having a fresh hair cut seems to give me a boost in confidence. It is a fact that the better you look, the better you will perform.
The mere fact that not only does looking good give you confidence, but your boss and fellow workers have more confidence also.

The third thing you can do to build self-confidence is to take a risk. Do something that you may not have done in the past. Taking small risks and succeeding will bring you confidence and even small risks met with failure can be considered learning experiences. Don't try doing something you have not been trained for or dangerous, use good judgment but put yourself out there. Accomplishment breed s confidence and respect. Remember dad said “Can't never did anything.”

Rejection is a natural thing, it is not necessarily and thing you have done and you should not take it personally. People do not like everyone and people generally have their own opinions, likes, or dislikes and it is not something you should take personally. You also are able to make choices of the people you like or dislike. Just remember be the best you can be and this will come through to others. This is normal part of life and and there are people out there that will recognize this and gravitate to you.

Here is a final thought. Find a hobbie or something you do that you enjoy. Something that is a stretch for you. Try taking singing or dancing or find a instrument you can take lessons for. Find a hobbie like gardening, woodworking, remote control cars or maybe even sky diving. When you find success with something, you gain confidence. Do something interesting or something you wanted to try and you will find others with those interest also. Remember each little success will remove a little shyness.

A shy person can change if they truly want to. It is not always easy and you are the only one to change this. Shyness has many of the same emotions of fear, you have to take charge of your fears to overcome your shyness!